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NINE WORDS WOMEN USE 

 It Took Me Years To Decipher The Meanings

(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up. 

(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house. 

(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine. 

(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It! 

(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing there and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.) 

(6) That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That’s okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake. 

(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you’re welcome. (I want to add in a clause here – This is true, unless she says ‘Thanks a lot’ – that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say ‘you’re welcome’ . that will bring on a ‘whatever’). 

(8) Whatever: Is a woman’s way of saying F— YOU! 

(9) Don’t worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking ‘What’s wrong?’ For the woman’s response refer to # 3.

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Send this to the men you know, to warn them about arguments they are going to lose 

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Send this to all the women you know to give them a good laugh, because they know it’s true!!

p/s i got this via email from someone….enjoy reading.cheers!

Malay, as defined under Article 153 of Federal Constitution is a person professes the religion of Islam, habitually speaks the Malay language and conforms to Malay custom. These are three features which generally projects who is Malay.

Being Malay or bumiputera (which is not defined under Federal Constitution) is special in the sense that, there is a “protectionist policy” which commonly known as affirmative action. Generally there is high degree of misunderstandings on this positive discrimination among societies. Talking about affirmative action, it has something to do with UiTM and I am glad as there are several people who care to share their views on the previous post on this blog- “My say on UiTM”. Healthy discussions should be norms in this country instead of spending too much on politicking. After all, letting political masters to decide for people is the biggest mistake which Malaysians have been done. We vote, we take the lead and we decide.

Come back to my point, some people perceived Malay as a group of people which usually tainted with futility, sluggish, playful and possess a never-ending malady of inability to focus as well as too dependant on government. Basically this is something which Tan Sri Khalid said on tv regarding the PKNS’s conflict.

Of course, being Malay I am quite upset which such statement for a simple reason that, the bad features which I mentioned above impliedly commensurate with a predominant race in this country – the Malays. Such generalisation is hurtful and I believe not all Malays are like that. Yes, for Tan Sri Khalids’ supporters, I am aware he made such statement in the light of maladministration for many years in PKNS. We are too complacent with the surroundings – Malay surroundings. We are hesitating to open the door to non Malays. We are afraid of the shadows in the darkness, full of uncertainties and indistinct. The question is, after the establishment of NEP, is this the outcome which we expect from Malaysians?

Two distinct schools of thoughts may explain the answers. First, this state, a sovereign state of Federation of Malaysia is a state which has a long line of history and the fact that Malays are indigenous people cannot be disregarded. Hence, Malays ought to be master and shielded with many privileges. These privileges in return should not be challenged as it should be regarded as token of appreciation from non Malays towards the Malays for accepting them as citizens. In simple words, challenging the privileges equals to challenge non Malays citizenship. Due to this so called social contract, Malaysians are living happily under one roof despite races and origins of the people. However, does this privilege benefit the Malays? Why social disparities are so glaring in terms of economy and social? Who to be blamed? To make simple assertion that Malays are born with bad habits is a total nonsensical. Dr.Mahathir used to say even for so many years as PM, yet he failed to change the attitude of Malays. This statement may be used by certain people who cherished by idea of bad breed will never create good fruit. What is the extent of the truth behind this statement is left undecided. Nevertheless, this topic is deemed as sensitive and I believe majority of Malaysians are not ready to have public discourse on this matter. For the sake of knowledge, it should be debated prudently.

Secondly, is taking an approach in the view of Human Rights Law. Human Rights identify affirmative action and seen as assistance towards certain groups and this should be regarded as temporary in nature. The aim of this action is to speed up development of such groups through supplementing them with special assistance as they are lagging in terms of meeting minimum standards for human needs. Reid Commission recognised that there is a need to review this privilege after 15 years of its implementation. After that, it is up to our political masters to decide on it. So far until now, it has never been revoked. The trajectory of NEP is claimed to move towards the betterment for Malays. True enough? Let’s look at reality and be realistic. There are various calls to abolish this action. Could abolishing it resolve the matter? The tool is good, but then, the vehicle which acts as to implement it is tainted with many appalling elements. In my view, two steps to be taken- have a thorough reform of this vehicle which necessitate a high degree of political wills and review the viability of Malays and Bumiputera should these privileges to be abolished.

i know and i admit there are thousands of discussions on this matter. this morning the lecturer `interrogated` my classmates and i regarding contract law which we did it on the first year. of course few things that we know is actually wrong and this has not been pointed out since we already  did it, by assuming that yeah, got A for that paper means you are an expert now.sadly,it is wrong.A does not shows your level of knowledge as you might fail in the reality application of the law itself.

the gist of this piece of writing is we, malaysians love to keep quiet when lecturer ask..`do you have any questions?`. a friend of mine pointed out that there are several lecturer who warned us `do not argue with me`..this is an absurdity.as varsity student we are expected to think and not to say yes without thinking.we must argue so that our level of thinking as well as knowledge improves.

i still remmeber when i was 11 years old, i asked my science teacher, what is DNA?she gave me a disappointing reply by saying that you are too small to know this stuff. at that time there was a rape case and the word DNA was famous. thats why i asked her. i feel shamed and disappointed with her attitude. later i asked my father who gave me a lenghty explaination on it.

what matter me most is our attitude.do we want to produce 1 class thinking society?yes.but how do we treat students?is it fair to them by denying their desire of knowledge hunger?luckily the lecturer loves to argue and i like her style of teaching.she keeps me busy so that i could come out with my own stands as to why i say this and that.

when i did english courses at the british council, i must admit i prefer reading children books, because it gives me knowledge that i don`t have.mind you, the books were imported from UK.it covers Shakespeare( i know this man when i`m in varsity,pity..), Einstein in detail, history of world war, winston churchill, and others which all of it i do not know when i was in school.that books full of colours as well as explaination on the topic..i could say it suits primary school students in UK.

if we are to put the blame for the lame system, actually you will ended being disappointed.so the best way is to read more and try to inculcate this habit to small children.apart from that,never disappoint small children as what my primary school teacher did to me.

being in the new group after a tough battle to get inside the group is a worth thing. i am not a super woman who could face all sorts of teaching styles without a good mentally prepared. i will go for normal streams which i`m used to it. a friend of mine have to either willing or without a willing heart to be called as `ustazah` which means a very pious lady! and that name come from none other than our own lecturer. there you go. a fine name coupled with a good personality. however i cannot stand to refrain myself from laugh coz i know her well.very chaotic person, when we are together, we will laugh and laugh..talking on any stuffs ranging from girlish thingy, laws, politics, hot bachelors and others..hahaha..i just drop by to write something to remember this sweet evening

The first time I met her she was just an ordinary teenager. We met at Bukit Aman, whereby both of us were kindly given time to meet our relatives who has been detained under ISA. That was the first and the last time I met that girl.

I met my uncle and Aina met her father. Both of them have been detained about 6 years under ISA. Okay, let’s leave the ill story of the grounds of their detention, as the essence of the intended story is on the death of Aina Mardhiah.

She fell at her house, then unconscious. Doctor revealed that she had blood clot inside her head since she is small. When she fell, the blood clot spread inside the head and caused her to collapse.

Her father, whom I called as uncle Acep, was informed about his offspring’s health status and it required him to see her as soon as possible for a few hours before she was announced dead, she was fully dependent on what me, as a layman call it as life machine.

Police told my aunt that uncle Acep had depart from KEMTA, located in Taiping at 1 noon. However he arrived at 9 pm and his beloved daughter has passed away around 6 pm. If uncle Acep was really departed from KEMTA at 1 noon he supposed to reach hospital at 5 as it only takes 3-4 hours journey from taiping to klang valley. If only uncle Acep was brought earlier to see Aina, he is certainly able to meet her.

Bureaucracy processed caused this delay and this delay is too much. When I was seeing my uncle at bukit aman, I was told by the police that under a new minister, ISA detainee must have official permission from the said minister before he could be brought out from KEMTA. 

Something should be done. Let this tragedy become the first and the last one. We shall not compromise with ‘lame’ bureaucracy processes. There are a lot of people who have raise hue and cry on this piece of law. However, it needs political will to change this kind of circumstance. The executive should loose the knot in emergency situations as it is a very torturing situation when you are helpless while facing ‘lame’ bureaucracy processes.

For Aina, may God hold you softly in palm of His hand……

Today kak sal came to my room. We had a lengthy a discussion over this matter after we did our mandarin tasks.

Yes, both of us love animals. Dear readers, from my point of view, animals also have feelings of needs to be loved and love, it knows the feelings of anger and sad. However, the feeling that I would like to emphasize is the feeling of fear. Have you ever wonder, at the moment human point a gun to a group of elephant, what does it feel? Have we ever put ourselves at their place? What does a monkey feel when human beat it and struck its backside with a steel stick?

In certain countries like China, people kill animals that we perceived as pets like dogs and cats. Kak Sal and I have a feline and we love it so much. We are totally against the norm of eating these lovely animals. God had created many types of food and why they need to kill these lovely animals? The answer is customs and belief.Some of them belief that tiger meat can boost their manly energy levels which is good for sex I guess. Cats and dogs fleshes are delicious and can warm themselves. This is what they believed.As human being, we are blessed with the ability to think and justify our acts, either good or bad. Thus we are also entrusted with responsibility to take care of the nature and other livings as well. Yeap, we are bloody greedy as we kill animals, we took away their home and when it tried to defend its’ home, we just need to take a gun and shoot it.Not only that, we also kill them just to take its’ furs. We DO NOT need furs. God had created human perfectly. Furs are meant for animals because animals DO NOT wear clothes like we do. Furs can shield animals from cold. Wool can shield humans from cold. The analogy is simple, if u need furs, then you are also animals.The MAIN problem is that human never considers about animals nor tried to put self into the conditions of the animals. If you do not like animals, fine, I don’t mind. But please do not act cruelly against animals and I hope from now onwards, please change our attitude towards animals, at least learn to understand how does it behaves.

First of all let me inform dear readers, that Dr. Mahmoud Ahmadi Nejad is the president of Islamic State of Iran. He is just a small man, I bet he is shorter than Bush. I do not care about his looks or whether he got six packs. My concerns are his ability to shatter the world’s political climate and most importantly he stood up for his principle, which is in my opinion something that the Islamic leaders rarely had. As far as I am concern, the present Islamic leaders are busy calculating their money, how much oil reserves exist in their state and being a best buddy to Uncle Sam – America, despite what America did to Muslims in Palestine, Iraq and others. Not only that even America had repeatedly uttered wicked mantra that Islam is harm and dangerous and uncivilized, therefore the world shall avoid anyone who has to do with Islam, but hey, once again take a look at the Arab tycoons who invest trillions in US. Are they categorized as harm too?Yeah, lets follow what America said, eat McDonalds, drink Starbucks, sell your oil to me, let me come to your state and build military camp, let me capture your citizens with long beard and big turban on his head because he is terrorist. Roughly that is what I think about the stupid Arabs who under the evil influence of America. Somehow I feel sympathy towards them coz some of them are educated, blessed with money they can go to top universities, yet, they are still blind!Okay enough with the irritating part of the yucky-type leaders. Dr. Mahmoud Ahmadinejad (MA) came from engineering background and manages to adapt with political stream. There are many tales about this great man. Low profile and clean. He don’t need concubines or money to be popular, but his talks and thoughts make me impressed. ‘If you (US) could have nuclear and it is not harm and use it as energy for the people, why can’t I have it too for the benefit of my people `…These are among the words that I remembered a bit of his statement when America strongly opposed to his plan to build nuclear reactor. A leader is meant to serve his people with all his might. That is what I believe in a man who called himself as a leader. However, in the present days, it happens the other way around. Being a leader means you will have huge opportunity to be rich and famous. Name it and you will get it. MA`s house situated in suburb of Tehran, small house without couches nor red carpets to welcome visitors. In short he is simple man with great challenges. Even America and United Nations had managed to bar Iran’s economy; this man never shows that he will lose easily to such restriction imposed on Iran.What I’ve been thinking was why can’t we as Muslims to unite and help Iran and other states which suffer from America’s dictatorship, by way of creating a strong economic chain through bilateral trade agreements. We import goods from Iran; indirectly we are creating job opportunity for them. Thus Iranian won’t be suffered without job and money.Fine, if other stupid Arabs` leaders do not care about this man nor his people, but we as Muslims should have the heart to help him and his people too, on the ground that he is a RARE type of leader on the world and I pray Allah will gives him strength to show that Muslims are not weak. I would be happy and proud if he were the premier of MalaysiaJ

 Bagi sesiapa yang pernah beli nasi lemak yang terkenal di hadapan kolej jati anda semua tentu tahu tentang kewujudan van nasi lemak ataupun di kenali sebagai nasi lemak pak cik. Apa yang mahu aku kongsi ialah cerita gerai nasi lemak di sebelah van pak cik nasi lemak tersebut. Gerai itu aku gelar gerai akak kerana taukeh nya kakak. Al kisahnya kawan aku beli sebungkus nasi lemak di gerai akak. Kemudian aku beritahu kawanku yang aku mahu ke gerai pak cik. Kemudian akak itu terus mencelah dan kemudian bercerita tentang beberapa perkara aneh yang berkisar ilmu hitam untuk menjatuhkan perniagaannya. Mungkin anda semua berasa perkara ini perkara remeh di kalangan bangsa melayu tetapi bagi aku ini bukan remeh malah petanda kejatuhan bangsa ku! Akak itu juga bercerita tentang gerainya seolah-olah tiada pengunjung dan beberapa pembeli mengadu bahawa mereka telah lama tidak nampak akak berniaga sedangkan akak hari-hari buka gerai.Baiklah ingin aku bandingkan pakcik dan akak nasi lemak. Pakcik nasi lemak punya banyak pilihan seperti filet ikan, telur rebus, paru dan sebagainya. Pokoknya lebih banyak pilihan daripada gerai akak. Malah menjual air laici dan cendol. Bagi pembeli pula ini satu kesenangan kerana ia merupakan one stop- beli air dan makanan di satu tempat yang sama. Gerai akak tidak banyak pilihan dan tidak menjual air. Malah harga nasi lemak pakcik lebih murah daripada gerai akak. Lantas setelah selesai urusan aku `tapau` nasi lemak pak cik, aku pergi ke gerai akak itu untuk memberitahu telahannya bahawa penolong pakcik itu sentiasa berbaju hitam adalah benar. Akak itu mengangguk dengan yakin.Aku tidak begitu setuju dengan pemikiran yang ada pada akak itu. Aku memberi nasihat supaya pilihan lauk di perbanyakkan, supaya pelanggan boleh memilih lauk yang pelbagai.Aku tidak mungkin memberi no telefon pawang, tok dukun, bomoh siam, bomoh sakai dan sebagainya. Aku mahu akak itu berfikir dan bersaing secara sihat. Apabila kita ada pesaing kita perlu meletakkan diri kita lebih maju daripada pesaing. Ini hukum alam yang biasa. Jika mahu berjaya dalam persaingan kita perlu lebih maju.

Namun sebagai umat Islam aku wajib percaya pada perkara ghaib. Ini bukan bermakna aku percaya kuasa lain selain Allah ta`ala tetapi wujud segelintir manusia yang sanggup meminta tolong dari iblis dan jin bagi melaksanakan sesuatu niat dan kehendak mereka. Inilah golongan yang Allah confirm dosanya tidak akan di ampunkan..aku berasa kelakar apabila berhadapan dengan insan sebegini..kamu mengaku diri kamu islam tetapi ia sekadar di mulut tidak di hati dan tiada penghayatan tentang islam. Jika benar akak itu di ganggu secara halus maka carilah penawar nya dan jangan main serkap jarang tentang punca kejatuhan perniagaan akak. 

Terpanggil pula aku untuk menulis tentang tajuk ini. Al kisahnya sebab musabab aku menulis tentang topic yang `lemau` ini kerana aku sendiri pernah menjadi mangsa ph.d orang lain dan juga pak cik aku terpaksa menutup premis perniagaan makanannya kerana sering di ganggu dengan berbagai-bagai cara samada halus mahupun kasar. Sebagai seorang peniaga di negara kapitalisme ini keuntungan adalah tonggak utama dalam sesuatu perniagaan. Lebih-lebih lagi bangsa melayu yang tidak mungkin mahu jadi hero dan berlagak biasa seperti tiada apa-apa yang berlaku kerana tidak tahan di ganggu hingga mendapat kerugian pula! Adat meniaga, ada persaingan, tetapi kebanyakan orang melayu gagal untuk bersaing secara sihat. Mungkin juga telah tertulis di sejarah akan perangai atau virus ph.d ini sememangnya telah di warisi dari zaman ke zaman kerana ia mungkin menjadi `short cut` untuk mencapai matlamat.Fenomena ini juga pernah aku alami ketika menuntut di sekolah hinggalah ke IPT. Bukan mahu mengangkat diri aku sebagai muslimah liberal acuan barat yang kadang kala selesa bercakap di dalam bahasa inggeris, tetapi ini lah yang kerap menimpa diriku. Aku akui, aku dibesarkan di dalam keluarga yang tidak begitu islamik, tetapi pendidikan agama tetap menjadi perkara wajib bagiku. Lantas kebiasaan ku berbicara dalam bahasa inggeris bersama ahli keluarga menyebabkan aku terbawa-bawa ke luar.  Apabila aku masuk ke kelompok yang melabelkan insan yang suka berbicara dalam bahasa inggeris sebagai mat saleh perasan, aku bingung dengan sikap mereka. Aku lebih suka menjauhkan diri daripada cuba mendekati mereka dan membazirkan air liur untuk memberitahu mengapa aku begini.Baru-baru ini juga pensyarah memintaku melakukan solo presentation kerana aku banyak mulut dalam kelas. Hati aku terguris apabila ada segelintir rakan sekelas melabelkan aku `bajet bagus`. Aku dipinta bukan meminta untuk melakukan solo presentation itu. Bagi aku ilmu adalah kurniaan Allah. Justeru aku tidak berhak untuk merasa riak tentang hakikat bahawa aku memang suka membaca dan sedikit berpengetahuan daripada insan-insan yang suka mengutukku. Jika beginilah sikap bangsa melayu, ke manakah kita seterusnya?daripada peringkat yang atas, di kalangan professional, ahli politik, dan golongan-golongan lain lagi, aku yakin ini lah masalahnya- tidak mahu bersyukur di atas kurniaan Allah, sentiasa membandingkan diri dalam skop yang negatif dan tidak mahu bersaing secara sihat. Aku juga punya darah cina keturunan hakka. Jadi aku tahu sedikit sebanyak perihal kaum cina. Bukan mahu melabel mereka ini suci, bersih , seputih sabun Breeze (pinjam ayat uncle Hisham Rais), tetapi mereka punya satu keazaman yang teguh untuk melihat kaum mereka ke hadapan. Oleh yang demikian aku berharap sesiapa yang membaca artikel ni dan juga aku sendiri akan terhindar dari wabak ph.d-bahaya dan tidak mengenal jantina, kedudukan, tahap akademik, tahap ke`alim`an, tahap ketebalan serban atau kopiah di atas kepala dan lain-lain lagi tahap. Wassalam.